Types Of Abuse

Abuse is never okay and should never be accepted.

All relationships have ups and downs. At any time in a relationship we may experience periods of harmony and commitment or disagreement and conflict, this is an acceptable part of all relationships.

Sometimes however these matters are not resolved. If one partner does not get their own way they may become controlling. Threatening and using fear to control, and or verbal abuse, physical force, emotional blackmail to get their own way is not acceptable. There IS a life after abuse and we at Cithrah are committed to help you on your journey, no matter how long it may be.

Physical Abuse

Physical Abuse can be caused by:

Punching or slapping
Kicking
Biting
Burning
Cutting
Scalding
Strangling
Restraining
Restriction of diet or access to essentials

Emotional Abuse

Emotional Abuse can be caused by:

Verbal Abuse

Verbal Abuse can be caused by:

Financial Abuse

Financial Abuse can be cause by:

Withholding Money
Spending excessive amounts of money on alcohol, gambling
Keeping all the money
Not providing for basic needs
Building debts and credit
Demanding money

This can lead to having no home, money or clothes, debt worries, no heat or a significant lack of basic comforts and resources.

Sexual Abuse

Sexual Abuse can be caused by:

Inappropriate sexual requests
Refusing to take NO for an answer
Rape; even in a marriage this is a crime
Using sex as a blackmail or control
Building debts and credit
Any form of Cyber Sex including unwanted text messages, unsolicited explicit images, photographs or links to inappropriate material
Revenge porn

Why might a victim feel that they have to stay?

They have emotional ties
For the sake of their children
Embarrassment
Feelings of failure
Knowing their place
Loss of security
Too afraid to leave
A career is too important and must come first

Excuses victims make on behalf of the perpetrator

Everyone else is with someone
It’s the way they love me
They don’t mean it
They had a bad home life
They have a drink / drug problem
This is how they show love to me
I should have kept my mouth shut
They have a mental health problems / bad nerves
It was my fault
They will realise I love them, and they will stop
I shouldn’t look at anyone else