Reasons People Stay

Abuse is never okay and should never be accepted.

All relationships have ups and downs. At any time in a relationship we may experience periods of harmony and commitment or disagreement and conflict, this is an acceptable part of all relationships.

Sometimes however these matters are not resolved. If one partner does not get their own way they may become controlling. Threatening and using fear to control, and or verbal abuse, physical force, emotional blackmail to get their own way is not acceptable. There IS a life after abuse- we at Cithrah are committed to help you on your journey.

Reasons Victims Stay

They have emotional ties
For the sake of their children
Too afraid, embarrassed
Feelings of failure
Knowing their place
Loss of security
Too afraid to leave
Fear of having nowhere to go
Lack of funds
A career is too important and must come first

Things Victims Say

Everyone else is with someone
It’s the way they love me
They don’t mean it
They had a bad home life
They have a drink / drug problem
This is how they show love to me
I should have kept my mouth shut
They have a mental health problems / bad nerves
It was my fault
They will realise I love them, and they will stop
I shouldn’t look at anyone else

Who Can Be A Victim of Abuse?

Mother or Father, Daughter or Son, Wife or Husband, Girlfriend or Boyfriend, Partner regardless of gender, Grandmother or Grandfather
It doesn’t matter who you are! Anybody can be a victim to abuse.