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Reasons People Stay

Abuse is never okay and should never be accepted.

All relationships have ups and downs. At any time in a relationship we may experience periods of harmony and commitment or disagreement and conflict, this is an acceptable part of all relationships.

Sometimes however these matters are not resolved. If one partner does not get their own way they may become controlling. Threatening and using fear to control, and or verbal abuse, physical force, emotional blackmail to get their own way is not acceptable. There IS a life after abuse- we at Cithrah are committed to help you on your journey.

Reasons Victims Stay

  • They have emotional ties
  • For the sake of their children
  • Too afraid, embarrassed
  • Feelings of failure
  • Knowing their place
  • Loss of security
  • Too afraid to leave
  • Fear of having nowhere to go
  • Lack of funds
  • A career is too important and must come first

Things Victims Say

  • Everyone else is with someone
  • It’s the way they love me
  • They don’t mean it
  • They had a bad home life
  • They have a drink / drug problem
  • This is how they show love to me
  • I should have kept my mouth shut
  • They have a mental health problems / bad nerves
  • It was my fault
  • They will realise I love them, and they will stop
  • I shouldn’t look at anyone else

Who Can Be A Victim of Abuse?

Mother or Father, Daughter or Son, Wife or Husband, Girlfriend or Boyfriend, Partner regardless of gender, Grandmother or Grandfather
It doesn’t matter who you are! Anybody can be a victim to abuse.