Recognising Abuse

Recognising Abuse

Abuse is never okay and should never be accepted.

All relationships have ups and downs. At any time in a relationship we may experience periods of harmony and commitment or disagreement and conflict, this is an acceptable part of all relationships.

Sometimes however these matters are not resolved. If one partner does not get their own way they may become controlling. Threatening and using fear to control, and or verbal abuse, physical force, emotional blackmail to get their own way is not acceptable. There IS life after abuse and we at Cithrah are committed to help you on your journey.

Domestic Abuse

Anyone who is in fear of ‘threatening, controlling, coercive behaviour, violence or sexual abuse by a current or former intimate partner or family member. Domestic abuse can be experienced by anyone irrespective of age, ethnicity, religion, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation or any form of disability.

Sexual Violence Abuse

Anyone who is in fear from unwanted physical, psychological, verbal, virtual/online that is perceived to be of a sexual nature which is controlling, coercive, exploitative or harmful. Sexual abuse can be experienced by anyone irrespective of age, ethnicity, religion, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation or any form of disability.

Emotional Effects of Abuse

The emotional effect of any of these types of abuse can cause depression, suicidal thoughts, misuse of drugs, alcoholism, low self-esteem, low self-image, hopelessness and you may become withdrawn.

Distress, grief, powerlessness and immobilised with no value of self can lead to a breakdown of healthy verbal communication and leave you unable to make decisions even the smallest ones.

The Explosion 

It may seem strange to start with the end , well not where domestic abuse is concerned. The end is the beginning of a cycle of abuse From the first incident it moves to

Repentance 

After the explosion comes the remorse and guilt. The abuser is truly sorry and makes promises that this will never happen again. This is where the promises are made, and you are showered with love and affection.

The Hook of Hope 

This is the place of calm when things feel like they have settled down and everything feels normal. However, over time the apologies and presents become less and less and can disappear.

Honeymoon Period 

When less effort to gain forgiveness sets in tensions begin to build again. Suddenly you are walking on eggshells and there is no way to predict what your partner is going to do or say. This leads to the ‘Explosion’ and the cycle begins again.

Can you see any of these signs? If so please contact us, We are here to help!

The Cycle of Violence

What is Domestic Abuse?

Who Can Be A Victim of Abuse?

Mother or Father, Daughter or Son, Wife or Husband, Girlfriend or Boyfriend, Partner whatever Gender, Grandmother or Grandfather.
It doesn’t matter who you are! Anybody can be a victim to abuse.